As host of The Big Life I host weekly private training sessions with the biggest personal growth experts on the planet – including Bob Proctor, Dr Joe Vitale, Christie Marie Sheldon, Lisa Nichols, Robert Greene, Vishen Lakhiani, Laura Silva, Carol Tuttle, John Assaraf… and many, many more.
All of this awesome training is geared to help you achieve one goal:
To help you create YOUR version of a “Big Life” – a fun life filled with abundance, happiness, purpose, passion, success, joy and more love than you can handle.
And – yes – champagne
Here are the 7 biggest lessons I’ve learned from these amazing teachers so far:
1. You need to have a vision (and be in love with it!)
If you want to create a big life – filled with more abundance, happiness, passion, love and success – the first thing you gotta do is decide what you really want.
Problem is, most people’s idea of a “vision” is focussing on what they don’t want – from “I don’t want to be in debt” to “I don’t want to be overweight anymore”.
Here’s why this sucks: we get more of what we focus on, so focussing on lack only creates more lack. Avoid this approach at all costs!
The key is to have a vision that inspires you… a vision so exciting and sexy and YOU that you simply fall in love with it and can’t stop dreaming about it. (It’s gotta be this exciting to help you overcome the inevitable challenges you’ll encounter on your road to success.)
Also, write your vision down. Bob Proctor told me there’s magic in getting your goals on paper.
Just try it. And go back to your goals some time later. You’ll see!
2. Work with your subconscious mind
The worst advice I’ve heard in personal growth is to simply “take massive action” – because, until you’re ready to succeed, this usually leads to self-sabotage, procrastination, and deeper feelings of inadequacy.
This isn’t your fault… it’s because of a fundamental misunderstanding of how our minds work.
Here’s the problem: most people only set goals at the conscious level, which neuroscience is proving to limit us to just 1-5% of our total resources. This means that 95-99% of our resources are accessed through the subconscious mind – yet most of us ignore this completely!
What this means is if we want to create MORE income, love, happiness – or anything else – in our life, wefirst need to work on our subconscious beliefs. That’s where we’ll get the most leverage and biggest results.
As Dr Bruce Lipton from Stanford University says – your subconscious mind “ultimately casts the deciding vote” on your level of success and happiness, because it’s “a million times more powerful”. Imagine that!
So, all you gotta do is make sure you’re working on a plan to reprogram your subconscious mind.
Speaking of which…
3. Practice Creative Visualization (daily)
Creative Visualization is the art and science of imagining what you want to create – in vivid, sensory-rich, “high definition” levels of detail.
The reason this is so powerful is because – as Dr Maxwell Maltz wrote in his classic book Psycho Cybernetics:
Your subconscious mind “Cannot tell the difference between what’s real, and what’s imagined.”
What this means is you can TRICK your subconscious mind into believing you’re more successful / happy / rich / sexy / loveable than you actually are – simply by imagining yourself that way, in vivid detail.
It’s a wonderful quirk of our nervous system, but it really does work. You can use visualisation to boost yourconfidence, skills, happiness, abundance, energy – and more.
The keys are repetition (practice every day for a few minutes), vividness (use ALL the senses when you imagine – including touch, smells, hearing etc) and emotions (the stronger the positive emotion you can summon, the better results.)
More than 200+ studies prove that visualisation works… so get visualizing!
4. Take Inspired Action
This is where things get really FUN.
Most folks worry themselves silly and give up on their goals, because they “don’t have a plan” to get there.
But here’s the good news: when you have a compelling vision, and you work on your subconscious beliefs by visualizing every day (steps 1-3), you open yourself up to receive ideas, insights, hunches and “flashes of inspiration” from the universe – ideas which you can quickly and effortlessly put into action.
As Dr Joe Vitale taught me,
“The next step is always revealed”. Always. ALWAYS!!
So don’t worry about having a master-plan. Instead, focus on your vision, and take action on the ideas that inevitably float into your consciousness.
Then rinse… repeat… and keep following the hunches ‘til you reach your goal. Simple!
5. Go Zen
I’ll keep this one short and simple:
More than 2000 studies prove that meditation has countless benefits for body and mind. This is indisputable – it will have a HUGE positive impact on your life.
But it’s not just good for your wellbeing – from a “success” perspective, meditating puts you in flow, increases your creativity, makes you feel mentally stronger, helps you become more present, boosts your focus and productivity – and makes you a nicer person to be around. (And much more.)
That’s why if you want to be the best version of yourself, I invite you to make meditation part of your daily routine.
(And if you think meditating is tough, consider the alternative – that the voice in your head you can’t seem to shut up during meditation will be running your life; unchallenged; on autopilot, FOREVER … unless you learn how to quieten it down – by meditating! Pretty humbling, right?)
6. GIVE More
When The Secret’s Bob Proctor came on my show he revealed about 1000 ideas which blew my mind and made me wish he was my grandfather.
But the best of all of them was “you cannot out-give the universe”.
I love this idea – at its simplest it means we should stop chasing what we want, stop trying to GET it, and instead focus on giving as much value as we can.
Give love. Give appreciation. Give better service. Give a better product. Give more time. Give more attention. Give more awesomeness. Give more compliments. Give give give give give.
Give whatever you want to receive more of.
When you shift to that level of focus, abundance starts to magnetize in your life.
It took me a long time to truly *get* this, but the more value you provide, the more money you’ll make (and the better you’ll feel about it.)
7. Have A Kick-Ass Daily Routine
I wish this final strategy was sexier, but it’s crucial – literally every guest I’ve had on The Big Life, from John Assaraf to Lisa Nichols, has stressed to me the importance of having a kick-ass daily routine.
Why? Because it builds confidence, progress, flow… and MOMENTUM.
My daily routine includes meditation, visualization, writing down a page of things I’m grateful for, and heading to the gym to get my sweat on. Oh – and gangsta rap. (It always gets me psyched up and ready to take action.) But yours can be different – obviously, the hiphop is optional – but the key is to do something EVERY DAY that puts you in a PEAK state.
Then, from that level of “higher” consciousness, you can go about your day, kicking ass and being the best version of you you can be.
Do this enough times…. and you’ll end up with your “Big Life”, filled with abundance and purpose and passion and all the other awesomeness you desire.